I must be superb angry today. All the energy was unleashed during pilates tonight. I was in tip top condition, doing moves which I have not been able to do for the last few sessions. I was extremely amazed. Stretch and stretch and stretch, challenging myself beyond boundaries, feeling my energy flow through.

我很不服

心里战争

When you are being belittled;

When you are deemed to be incapable in almost everybody's eyes;

When you are deemed to be useless or even worthless...

What do you do?

 

 

 

 

 

Career Profiling Test

Did a Career Profiling Test. Not bad, quite accurate. Here's the results...

AT FIRST GLANCE
• Works hard, puts in long hours and keeps busy with work.
• Detailed, meticulous and observant, quick to pick out abnormalities.
• Objective, but may appear detached.
• Quiet and reserved, prefers own company.
• Faithful, trustworthy and devoted in long-term relationships.
• Exercises authority, takes ownership of responsibilities.
• A good supporter of others.
• Orderly, methodical and systematic, takes care to plan in detail.
• Needs clear and thorough instructions, slow to act when uncertain.


WHILE AT WORK

Diligence and discipline are characteristics of Sharon's work attitude. She is often pre-occupied with the tasks at hand. As she derives satisfaction from being immersed in work and thrives on being involved, expect Sharon to put in long and extended hours at work.

Sharon is relatively dependable to deliver results on time.

Sharon generally will persist with work until it is completed.

Sharon is likely to be quality-conscious and achievement-oriented. She is motivated to produce work that is of a high standard. She is observant, quick to spot errors and critical where work is concerned. She is likely to be meticulous, careful and pre-occupied with detail.

Sharon is an objective person who is impartial and rational. She speaks factually and often does not involve her own feelings and emotions. She may sometimes be perceived as distant or detached.

Although Sharon is usually a sympathetic person, she may at times be selective about being involved in the personal problems of people.

Being a shy, quiet and reserved person, Sharon prefers her own company and feels awkward when meeting people for the first time. In social gatherings, she tends to stay in the background.

Sharon is the sort of person who forms long term bonds and attachments. She is faithful, trustworthy, and devoted in such relationships. She tends to be trusting, dedicated and protective towards those she loves. Patriotism and sense of duty is a significant aspect of her character.

Taking ownership of Her responsibilities and being accountable to higher authority are strong trademarks of Sharon. She is responsible, courageous, commanding and forceful. However, others may see her as being territorial because she is likely to assert control over work situations. Sharon will probably feel demotivated when not given enough responsibilities.

Sharon is moderately concerned with prestige, rank and reputation.

Sharon is as keen to explore abstract concepts when the topic appeals to her and she is as interested to discuss theoretical issues as the average person.

Being orderly, methodical and systematic, Sharon spends considerable time planning ahead and organizing activities. She ensures that programmes are scheduled properly and takes care to plan in detail. Formulating procedures and policies is her forte.

I was irritated. I was angry. I was frustrated with the system, with the culture, with their way of doing things. Everyday, there is bound to be something for me to talk about. Luckily and thankfully, there is a mate who shares the same perspective and annoyance as me. Everyday we will rattle about these unjustified treatments and about how unfair things are. That's how we pass each day. Is our way of releasing our negative feelings without bringing them home.

Thanks to my competitive nature. Despite all the negative feelings, there is not a single thought of giving up or resigning to fate. Rather, everyday after every complaint, the frustrations will push me to work even harder, to push myself beyond my boundaries. I did and everytime, I get unexpected results. To others, the results may not mean anything, but to me, it always means a step forward and I know that I am improving. It is a pat that I will always give myself for the job well done. This is very self-fulfilling.

Plus, my manager once told me during my appraisal "Sharon, you have the potentials. You have to learn to challenge yourself and push yourself beyond certain boundaries." Plus plus, my hubby will always tell me off "You are just plain lazy. Lazy to think." Plus plus plus, my hubby always tells me "Don't keep complaining. (that's why I don't complain in front of him, I always complain behind his back. kekeke) Before you complain, look at yourself, are you any better?" All these statements irked me but they do push me to go beyond my boundaries.

And I have proven it to be true:-

Examination Results and Status Report

Your examination results for the December 2009 session issued on 22-FEB-10 are:

Paper Details: F9 Fin. Man.

Result: Pass

Mark: 76

And best thing is, the passing rate for this paper is only 37% and I am one of the 37% who passed. I must say that I am very proud of myself, because this was completed during the time when I was busy preparing for my wedding. However, the sad thing is, when I told my hubby the only reply he gave was "ok" (though when he showed him the results, he has already said "Well Done, dear.", but this is a diffierent thing...) such a disappointing reply......=(

Magnets - attract or repel?

This is a good place for writing...for new ideas...every now and then, ideas will come up and I will be in the writing spirits again =D

Just finished our breakfast and here we are lying on our bed again...suffered from adrenaline shots again...another dozzzzzy day...yawn *o*

Was thinking about the no of differences we have and was amazed how we can "tahan" (tolerate) each other, each other's peculiarity...hahahaha. No wonder poles of the opposite sides of a magnet always attract. But if two of us can come together, there should still be some similarities between us, which indeed we do have.

We have the same temper, the same stubbornness, the same childishness. At times, we like to stay in our own world, to be alone and start to behave in such a way that no other people can understand, except the 2 of us. Not that we are strange, just that at times, we feel like letting our hair down, get away from the norms, get away from the need to accommodate to people and be selfish and be ourselves. We are very accommodating people because in our minds, to make people happy is equal to us happy, but sometimes this gets too tiring for us and thus the need for us to get away. Itineraries are "no no" for us; these are just guidelines for us, one that give us a very rough idea of what we are going to do next; simply because we do not like to be tied down by something, we work and do things according to our moods.

However, we are different when it comes to eating. He is very particular about food. He goes for fresh food, leftover food is a "no no" for him. For me, as long as I can eat (eating is my fav pastime), I am okay and because, my choice of food is very limited - fish, potatoes and nuts, that's all I need to make my day, very bimbo-tic, right? hahaha =D

When it comes to ordering of food, again another issue. He likes to order a lot of food, a typical Chinese mentality. A lot of food on the table, esp when there is excess food on the table, shows the host's generosity. For me, this is a "no no". Excess food on the table is a wastage. It is our upbringing; we have been taught not to waste food. We will order just enough for everyone, if anyone needs extra, we will go for a 2nd round.

I guess, no matter what, when 2 persons come together, there will bound to be differences. It is the differences that makes us understand each other better and learn to accommodate; it is the similarities that bind each of us together but it is also the similarities that cause us to clash.

So what's the moral of the story? Sit back and relax and enjoy each other's company. Don't think so much and attend to the differences when they arise. Every setback and every incident are valuable lessons to be learnt.

Cheers!

Thank you

Today is our 5th day in Bali.

Here I am blogging and he is sleeping.

I do not regret coming to Bali and neither do I regret leaving the planning to him, esp the accomodation. I always know that I can trust him to plan a good trip for me and I was never wrong. This Bali trip has once again proved that I am right.

We have just settled in our 2nd villas. The experiences that we have for these 2 villas are marvellous, wonderful, fantastic, brilliant, blah blah blah...

The 1st one was Kajane, in Ubud. The services they provide for the residents are beyond what words can describe, a total contrast to the 4-star hotel that we had days before. They practically attend to your every needs, understand your needs, remember your names, remember that you have not taken your meals, remember what you like or don't like to eat. For e.g. for one of the breakfasts, we took only one of the bites of their exotic, tropical fruit. I guess they sensed that we do not like to eat, thus for the next 2 days, they have kindly excluded that fruit out from our plates and replaced with something we like.

This is what I called, Services. Providing services without your guests telling you what to do, but constantly anticipating what your guests need. We highly recommended this villa. Will introduce more about this villa with photos once I return home.

We are currently into our 2nd villa - the Kunja at Semiyak. Not bad either, comparable. Cannot comment much yet, until the last day. And by the way, we have our own personal butler to our villa who will come to our kitchen to prepare food for us everyday. Shiok, right?!

Ohhh...the rain has stopped and he has woken up. Time to explore Semiyak and Kuta.

Tata!!!

Disappointed

I may sound like a complain queen again, but sorry, I have no choice.

As a service provider for many years, I value the qualities of service more than anything. For a matter of fact, I am more than willing to pay extras for good services and get very annoyed when the services are bad and when they affect the people around me. What's more, if it is going to reflect badly on me - as a host, it cannot be forgiven.

I was terribly upset by the services provided by a hotel (not to mention name), even until now. It was a failure of promises, a failure to fulfill the minimum requirement. It was my big day, an eventful, a happy, a cherry day for me and him and for everyone. Everyone whom we love, whom we care is invited on this day, to celebrate the big day with us.

Before the big day, we reminded the hotel again and again (I was very naggy then cos I know very well that the quality of services and food will drop when the nos of guests go up and sad to say, I was right. Darn it!) to provide us with the best quality of food and best quality of services for our guests on that day. We received a lot assurance, a lot of promises from the hotel that everything will be okay on that day. They further assured us that despite the many numbers of wedding dinners and lunches and seminars that will be going on on the same day, the quality of services that they will provide will not drop.

Sad to say, the promises were not fulfilled. This was terribly disappointing for a 4-stars hotel. I was right that the standard of services have dropped due to the large no of dinners and lunches and seminars on that day, and I was darn upset that this so called 4-star hotel is just not capable of committing itself to large nos.

Here're the huhas:-
1) Food. During food tasting, hotel has already been told and reminded the udon was too salty and to reduce the salt content. They were also told that there are a lot of elderly and too much salt is a "no no". But this was not fulfilled. Sharkfins on the other hand, ended up too blend. We have also reminded them to use fresh ingredients and we were assured by the hotel that they will use the top quality of ingredients, but it turned out that some of the dishes are not very fresh.
2) Glassware toppled and broke during the dinner. To us Chinese, this is a taboo as it is considered as inauspicious.
3) Spilling orange juice over the head of one of my guest by a waitress. This is unpardonable!!!
4) Excess food from the dinner was not brought up to our room. This is not the usual hotels' practice where usually after every banquet, the excess food will be brought up to the bride's and groom's room for their consumption. Excuse given by them:-oversight.
5) A promise made by one of staff to provide a cake is not fulfilled. This was to celebrate two of our best friends' wedding anniversary which happens to be on the following day. The hotel staff was kind enough to offer a complimentary cake for them. To our dismay, the promise was not fulfilled. Excuse:- oversight.

Despite all the huhas, we are comforted that the hotel has agreed to provide us with some compensations. We are given a free Valentine Day's dinner for both of us and our 2 best friends + 10 dining vouchers. And of course, some of these dining vouchers will go to one of our guests due to incident No 4.

I guess the comforting part is, this ends with a good note. So what's more could I ask for?