How do you handle a man of precision?

Handling a man of precision can really make me vomit blood. Even producing the 1st draft, he needs to be very precise???? Now perhaps the way (I can think of) to deal with it, is:- give him a deadline and hack care him all the way. When deadline comes and nothing is produced, then you start to wack him left right in the centre ---> for wasting so much time on trying to be macho.

My idea of 1st draft is really "Give me a skeleton of what you have and let's work on the skeleton and meat it up." 2 brains are better than 1.

Call me lazy or whatever...things that are subjected to changes, esp when you know that whatever you are going to submit will be subjected to a lot of editing, see no point in cracking too much brains and efforts in it. Ultimately, the entire piece of work that you spent days and nights doing will be deemed as rubbish and discarded to the bin --> wouldn't this cause a drop in your morale?

The other school of thoughts will be:- give it your best shot the 1st time to minimise any re-works. That is the style of the man of precision.

So which school of thoughts do I belong to?

Answer is both. And whichever school of thoughts I adopt depends largely on my target audience.

If my audience is an MCP/autocratic, the 1st school thought will hold. Give him a skeleton of what I have and brainstorm. Bcos MCP has their own very UNIQUE ways of doing things. In their own ways or perspective, they always deemed themselves as correct. So now what becomes of the verdict? Winner always goes to the most argumentative ---> MCP. So shut up and get your butt going and get him to give you the ideas of what he wants out of it rather than you crack your brains day and night, eventually to know that all your ideas will be deemed as useless.

If your audience belongs to the democratic, then I will of course work hard to give it my best shot. Once and for all. Because I know this is the group of audience who will appreciate my ideas.

Soooo many things to do during this 2 weeks of leave...but could not find the motivation....

So far, only cleared 20% of it?

Spent the 1st 2 days of my leave waking up at noon and sleeping at wee hours in the night; the 1st thing I head for when I woke up was to my PC and stare at it for the next 3-4hrs...Oh mine!

Superb unkempt and look exactly like a yellow-face housewife...gosh!!! Now I understand why women should go out to work...at least there is an excuse for them to groom themselves...

Oh no...head starting to spin again from too much pc staring......

Pride and friendship

Pride is the route to my success and also the route to my failure.

It has always be and it will always be.

I don't see the point in begging people for help on something. To me, it has always been the "heart" and "how much he/she values you". If the person has the heart to do something and he/she values you, be it a last minute notice, an invitation dinner without an invitation card or he/she is forced to see someone whom he/she does not want to see at the event, for your sake, they will do it. To me, this is true friendship and true love - unconditional and selfless.

And that also explains my small circle of friends - the ones who stay true and faithful to one another, help is always available with just a phone call - no strings attached, no questions asked.

Maybe I was also influenced by the helping profession, I will extend my hand to anyone who needs it without any hesitation and which sometimes also results in myself being disappointed easily. When you thought that person really treats you as a friend, confide in you and you start helping unconditionally, but ends up, everything is a joke. Then you start to tell yourself that "So life has always been a joke".

As a result, every such experience tends to build up my defense towards this thing called "friendship". True friends are hard to come by...True true friends are even harder to come by...Once in a lifetime, all I need is just one true true friend and one true true partner =D

Stress?

As the day gets nearer and nearer, the tension becomes greater and greater and expectations start to grow.

You will start telling yourself "He just got to change. He just got to grow up. Is a new phase of life that he will be going through and he cannot remain status quo forever." Being status quo starts to irk you and getting him to get out from his status quo starts to make him peeve. "I have been like this all along, what is wrong with that?" he will say. But you will rebut "Is a new phase of life of new responsibilities, of new members into it. Being status quo is not going to lead you anywhere."

Somehow, you will flare up with him for no reason. It could be similiar issues from the past which you used to be able to tolerate, but not now. Things start to become less tolerable.

You don't feel the stress coming in but actually the stress is there...unconsciously, which is shown through the behaviour and short-temperness.

Dinner at Le Bistrot Du Sommelier

It was a 20 over years of friendship gathering, one that is really hard to come by. One that has been developed since primary school, unwavered by the storms and harsh weather. One that was built on so strong a foundation that no one or nothing can ever break it. One which you treasure deeply.

It was a simple dinner, but filled with meaning, filled with memories, the saddness and happiness, one that is always at the back of one's mind. Pictures could fade, turn yellow and eventually be thrown away, school uniforms could be discarded, but some things that will never fade are - the memories, the friendship and the togetherness.

Cheers to the long-lasting friendship of this group of friends.

Below are some of the snapshots of what we have feasted for tonight. Being a foodie, my main focus is still on food (I won't be surprised that I may eventually came up with an album of food..hahha) and thus, you won't be surprised that all my pictures evolved around food. As a result, I missed all the candid shots of our dear friends. What a waste...

5 Love Languages

The 5 languages of love, developed by Dr Gary Chapman:-

1. Quality Time
Being together, doing things together and focusing in on one another is the best way to show love. If this is your partner's love language, turn off the TV now and then and give one another some undivided attention. Providing a listening ear to your partner when they ventilating; they don't require a solution, they just need a EAR. Adopting the H2O approach? Huh...Hum...Oh...

2. Words of Affirmation

This is when you say how nice your spouse looks, how good your spouse looks in that piece of dress/shirt, how great the dinner tasted or even thank them for the small errands they have run for you. These words will also build your partner's self image and confidence.

3. Receiving Gifts

They don't have to be expensive to send a powerful message of love. To them, several inexpensive gifts mean more than one large gift. An occasional surprise or gift to show that you remember and appreciate. Spouses who forget a birthday or anniversary or who never give gifts to someone who truly enjoys gift giving will find themselves with a spouse who feels neglected and unloved.

4. Acts of Service

Doing the little little things for your partner. These acts of service like helping out with the chores, doing things for your partner that you don't enjoy doing, enthusiastically do a task that you have requested etc. They like to know that you are concerned enough to help them with their daily task. It is the actions that show that you care and love for them.

5. Physical Touch

Sometimes just stroking your spouse's back, holding hands, or a peck on the cheek will fulfill this need.

One that is so common to most of us - the language of love, the love of language.

One that we use in our daily life, consciously or unconsciously, with our love ones, friends or even colleagues, to show our love, appreciation, gratitude and care and concern

One which allows us to understand how we want our "love tank" to be filled and how we can express love to others. If we don't understand our partner's requirements or even ours, there will bound to be misunderstanding and unhappiness in the relationships. Relationships involve investment and is only through this investment will there be sweet fruits of harvest.

One which we tend to dismiss its importance and take each other for granted that everything is understood.

My love languages are Words of Affirmation, Quality Time and Acts of Services. So what's yours?

Some interesting quotes to share...

- To all MEN: pls be PSLE ---> Please Show Love and Encouragement

- To all WOMEN: pls be DNA ---> Don't Nag Anymore

The Love I Found In You (Jim Brickman)

You are the air I need to breathe

the river of life inside of me

you are the half that made me whole

you are the anchor of my soul

and you are strong when I am weak

you are the words when I can't speak

you never fail to see me through

that's the love I found in you

you are my shelter from the storm

you are the road that leads me home

and baby with you here face to face

Oh I know I've found my place

and you are strong when I am weak

you are the words when I can't speak

you never fail to see me through

that's the love I found in you

and once in every life

you find the one that's right

and when you say forever it's true

That's the love I found in you

You are strong when I am weak

you are the words when I can't speak

you never fail to see me through

That's the love I found in you

That's the love, love I found in you