I am currently reading this book. The first chapter that I came across immediately reflected my current dilemma. "Love or Money," is the name of the chapter.

Just a few quotes from this chapter. 

"A baby's brain grows whole new structure in response to the love and affection, and caring firmness, given during its first 2 years of life."

"Children raised without sufficient loving care do not become fully the human being they were meant to be."

"Loving, patient and supported time with young babies is not a luxury, but a vital nutrient that we must provide."

I have no qualms about this. The nurture and love that you provide to your baby during its 1st year is very important; it is something that money cannot buy.  However, this will mean giving up your job, a lost of a secondary income which could possibly help the family and provide better financial to your family. 

This is a dilemma that I been having ever since I knew that I was pregnant. To continue working after my 4 months of maternity leave or to stop working for one year?

I am a Capricorn. Capricorn goes for stability, especially financial stability and security. They will continue to strive towards this goal until they reach their desired level of stability and security, one that no longer allows them to ponder "what will happen if I were to stop working?" This source of security is very important to them. They are realistic animals; they dislike living for the moment, they plan far far ahead and go for delayed gratifications. Furthermore, they are very ambitious creatures. They constantly like to test their abilities and go for difficult tasks that give them the most success even though these tasks are difficult to achieve. To the Capricorns, for the sake of future security, they do not mind suffering first and enjoy later.

Well, after describing the characteristics of a Capricorn, I guess the answer seems clear. As much as I want to provide a lot of love to my child during the first year, being a finance person and a Capricorn, I seriously doubt I will stop working for a year. I guess I may continue to work and push myself to continue to provide the best for my child while seeking for an income. To me, if that source of supplementary income is lost, it will cause a huge responsibility to my hubby, who becomes the sole provider. What good does it make, if my hubby is so stressed in trying to make ends meet but unable to continue to provide love, care and concern to his family? 

A stressed man becomes a depressed man, that's what I always believe. Thus, my role as a wife is always to make my hubby happy. Is only when he is happy, he will be relaxed and more able to provide for the family. So, if you say I am not a good wife, what's more?